How to Live a Positive and Productive Life
Hi my loves!
We're officially in September aka get-your-life-together-ber. A lot of us tend to go a little crazy during the summer and it seems like September, whether you/your kids are going back to school or not, is the wake up call to get you back on the stick. Over the past few months I've really been trying to reign it in a bit. Between working, making time for family, my boyfriend, a blog, new make up trends, what's in the $1 section at Target, pinning recipes that I'm never going to make, I'm seriously SO busy. I've come up with a few different techniques that have helped me be more positive and productive in my everyday life. These tips have really been helping me and I hope they can help you too!
Figure out what your goal is and focus on it - My Uncle Nucci once told me that "goals without plans are just dreams". We all know it's easy to dream, we do it all the time. It's much harder to actually determine what your main goal is and find ways to reach that goal. I suggest moving in steps. Say your goal is to lose 100 pounds. Break that down to 20 pounds. Once you lose that 20 pounds, move to the next 20 and so on. Now this doesn't mean you can't dream big. By all means lose those 100 pounds. But losing 100 pounds is very intimidating and you can get discouraged if you're not getting close enough to that goal, if you look at it in 20 pound intervals, it seems more achievable. Say you want to save money to buy a car, start out small. Take a break from your daily Starbucks visit, pack your lunches for school/work so you aren't spending more than you need to, set a "treat-yo-self" budget and stick to it. Always keep in mind your main goal, realize the steps you need to follow and power through them. You got this!
Get a cute planner or notebook and write EVERYTHING down - I definitely believe that things are way more likely to get done if I've written them down in a planner. Now add in the fact that it's a cute Instagram worthy planner and consider it done. There's something about writing things down that just makes it more likely to get done. I've had plenty of planners in my life but I recently got one on Amazon that I'm obsessed with. I use it to write down any appointments I have, when my credit card payment is due, birthdays, keeping track of new posts. It's a life saver. Another thing I always carry in my purse is a notebook. I always find myself thinking of an idea for a new post and if I don't write it down, it's gone forever. Sometimes I think "oh this is such a good idea, I won't forget this" and you can bet your ass I forget it. Keeping these two by my side 24/7 has kept my blog and life in order.
Read! - No matter what your goal is (losing weight, saving money, starting your own business, creating a blog) there are plenty of books that can help you. Now these books aren't going to say "okay first do this, then do that, and then this and voila! You own a business!" that's not how it works. What these books will do is help you get in the right frame of mind to achieve whatever goal you're working towards. I hate to call these books "self help books" but that's really what they are. If you're not into reading books, try Audible. It's an app you can download on your phone that will read a book to you. (Old timers, don't be upset, this is just the world we live in) I like to listen to Audible books while I'm working or getting ready in the morning. It makes it easier to multitask while still taking in what the book has to offer. My favorite so far has been "Girl Code" by Cara Alwill Leyba. This is an all around girl power book and it has really changed the way I see other women.
Use social media, don't abuse social media! - Social media has officially taken over the world. In a lot of ways it's a good thing, people have created super successful businesses and have become millionaires with the help of social media (goals). You just need to make sure you are using it in the right way. When I was trying to lose weight on Weight Watchers I stumbled across the Weight Watchers community on Instagram. I followed a bunch of other women who were doing WW and we would share meal ideas and motivation which definitely helped me lose the weight I did while on the program. On my blog Instagram, (@NotedNina, follow me!) I follow a bunch of other lifestyle and beauty bloggers. Some with thousands of followers and some with 100. Motivation and inspiration can come from anyone and anything.
Although social media can be a great platform to grow your brand or better yourself, sometimes we just need a break. It's easy to get lost in the glamorous life of Instagram girls with their perfect bodies, beautiful clothes and cars, and sponsored ads. Whenever I find myself getting too invested in what others are doing on social media, I try to take a step back. My boyfriend is a big help with that, he's not a social media person (thank god), so he has no problem shutting it down when I'm in over my head in Instagram posts. Take a break when you need to, it will be there when you get back.
Keep people around you that are motivating - It's important to be confident and know how to push yourself in life but there are times when we need an extra kick in the ass to really get moving. I'm the type of people that likes to keep my goals to myself. I don't like to say I'm gonna do something, I like to just do it and talk about it after. So there aren't many people that know my ultimate goal. The few that do know that goal keep me motivated to keep working towards it. If they notice that I'm getting off track, they're there to get me back on the grind. It's so important to have people around who support you, no matter what your goal is. Oh, and let me tell you, if there's someone in your life that is full of bad vibes and telling you to "be more realistic" with your goals instead of believing in you, block them. In real life and on social media. You don't need that kinda negativity in your life. To quote the ever so wise Queen Bey "tell 'em boy bye!"
Don't compare yourself to anyone -This is something that I am trying to master after reading "Girl Code". Cara explains in the book that there is no need for comparisons. A quote from the book that really stuck out to me is "Don't compare your chapter 1 to her chapter 20." This is the most perfect way to put it. There will always be someone that is closer to their goal than you are to yours. That doesn't mean they're any better than you, it just shows that you have more work to do. You should never feel discouraged by someone reaching their goal. Use that as motivation, if she can do it, you can do it! Remember that everyone is different. Even if you have the same exact goal as someone, the road to get there will never be the same. (Excuse me while I get super preachy for a second) Instead of competing with each other we should be empowering each other. Offer advise, ask for help, reach out to someone who inspires you and thank them, congratulate someone when they achieve something. Trust me, not only will the other person feel good, but you will too.
Thats all I have for now. Being positive can really go a long way. Sometimes it can be hard, we all have our moments. But if you find yourself down in the dumbs, hopefully one of these tips can pick you back up again. Remember that positivity and productivity go hand in hand. You can't have one, without the other! Until next time!